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  Rec'd a letter from my Dad - need some advice...

  by Fadeaway3pointer in

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  fader here - last meeting was in autumn 2005. lurker on this site and others.

  not one to get all controversial.. typical situation, pretty much a born in and left the church at age 38 and never looked back.. i'm 53 now, parents getting older - late 70s but very active, dad is still an elder.. parents, in laws, brother and brother-in-law still uber active jws.. my family (wife and 2 adult children) out since 2005.. we have stayed close to our parents - we have treaded religion lightly and have had a pretty good relationship and have kept our personal lives and beliefs/opinions separated from them.

  this was intentional - as we love them and do not want anything to cause shunning since they are getting older and want to be there for them and we respect their beliefs.. got this letter today.

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  When I was leaving I framed my interactions with my parents in the context that they are manipulators, and deal with them accordingly. It helped me to remove some of the emotion because I could see it for what it was - emotional blackmail. I wouldn’t accept it from anyone else in my life so why would I accept it from them.

  We didn’t speak for many years. I graduated college, got married, started a career all with no contact. After I had been married for nearly 15 years they decided to contact me. I laid down the ground rules -I wanted a relationship with them but I wouldn’t be manipulated or guilted. I didn’t want to hear anything about religion. And it’s been working, mostly for a number of years:
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  Do You Think “Higher Education “Is All That??

  by minimus in

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  as jehovah’s witnesses, we were regularly told how awful a college education is.

  i’m no longer associated with the religion but i am not so pro university.

  it’s not because i think you are better off without a degree.

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  I have two Bachelors degrees - I only ran across one professor who would retaliate for disagreement. Ironically it was a lower level elective in Women’s Studies.

  My degrees are in the Finance/Business area and all other professors were quite open to dissent.

  I don’t think a degree is all that, but I do think it should be your choice to go to college or not. My education has served me well and allows me a good standard of living free of financial stress. It also helped me to question things I am told - basically the opposite of what the Watchtower preaches.
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  Unpopular Opinion on Convention Protests

  by Jehalapeno in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i think it's really sad that people that wasted countless hours preaching for a cult are deciding to waste more hours on that same cult after leaving it.. get a hobby.

  enjoy life.. "the best revenge is a life well-lived.

  " - some person said this..

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  The whole attendant line just reminded me of how controlling the whole stupid cult is. Talk to who we say you can talk to, look where we tell you to look. And the self righteousness - to try and hide or silence anyone who is different.

  It looked rather silly too😀
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  Unpopular Opinion on Convention Protests

  by Jehalapeno in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  i think it's really sad that people that wasted countless hours preaching for a cult are deciding to waste more hours on that same cult after leaving it.. get a hobby.

  enjoy life.. "the best revenge is a life well-lived.

  " - some person said this..

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  I think all of us had different experiences and are at different points in our recovery. I am all for anyone finding their way to healing and peace.

  For some protesting might be that path. It wasn’t for me, but if it helps those doing the protesting, then they should do it.
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  Generally Speaking Do You Support The Police?

  by minimus in

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  i know bad cops exist in many cities.

  i know some cops who aren’t “bad” but do have an attitude.

  however, i prefer to have law and order as opposed to chaos.

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  Yes, most of them do care about the communities they police, even though they see a lot of people at their worst.
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  I got a Sympathy Card in the mail

  by Butterfly607 in

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  2. experiences

  i haven’t been to a meeting in months.

  just got a sympathy card in the mail from a “sister”.

  i don’t know her beyond her face.

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  I can understand somewhat. When I had surgery I got a card from a witness I haven’t heard from in almost 20 years. (At least I really did have something going on)

  The thought was nice but that whole life is a chapter I have closed and will not allow it to be reopened no matter how well intentioned someone is. I didn’t respond at all because a Witness has nothing to offer by allowing them into my life.

  You do what feels right to you.
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  Dealing With Smelly People

  by minimus in

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  i can never understand why some people simply stink.they don’t smell themselves??

  i knew of certain jws that had to be counseled many times because they refused to regularly bathe, wash their hair or use deodorant.

  and it’s not just witnesses.

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  For my job I travel a lot. There was a flight once with a man so smelly the passengers were all putting peppermint oil under their nose to make the stench bearable. It was the most awful flight experience. He was a white guy with dreadlocks and apparently a habit of not bathing.

  As far as at the KH I think most of the problem came from people not dry cleaning their clothes often enough. I used to just wash my dry clean only clothes on hand wash with Woolite.
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  christmas

  by zeb in

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  its only 3 more pays till christmas...

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  I love buying presents for my family that is out, especially the kids. Seeing their excitement makes it all worthwhile.
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  Powerful Sayings That Means A Lot For You Personally

  by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara in

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  just was thinking how some powerful quotes, remarks, sayings hit the mark with me and how much it enriched/ enhamced/influences my life.

  love beyond color.

  reality is that which when you no longer believe in it , does not go away.. “the truth is a battle of perceptions.

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  Pay yourself first.
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  Disaster Preparedness Training - WTF is that?

  by wannabefree in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i'm making plans for next weekend and my wife says she's not available saturday.

  "is there an assembly?

  " i asked.. no, disaster preparedness course (or something like that) at the kingdom hall.. is this new?

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  just fine

  My parents just had this meeting too.